The
man is the head of the woman (1Cor.
11:13), so it is the man’s responsibility to provide an hedge for the woman
and by extension to the home. As the husband it is upon you to ensure that your
family has a hedge over them. In fact wives and children naturally trust their
husband and father to protect them always. However, it is God who builds the
hedge as we see in job’s case. It was Satan who said God had a hedge around job
and his family. Can the Devil testify about your home and marriage that God has
a hedge around you? Without a divine hedge around you and your family the devil
will have a field day in your marriage. And if your marriage is not covered
then your home cannot be covered. Another way to say this topic is “how to get
your marriage covered”.
To build means
1. to make something by putting
together parts or material
2. to develop or form something
3. to increase the amount of something
4. To form by ordering and uniting
materials by gradual means into a composite whole
5. To develop according to systematic
plan by a definite process or a particular bass
To maintain means
1. To cause something to exist or
continue without changing
2. To keep something in good condition
by making repairs, correcting problem
3. To continue having or doing
something
4. To keep an existing state: preserve
from failure or decline
5. To sustain against opposition or
danger: uphold and defend
A hedge means
6. A row of shrubs or small trees that
are planted close to each other in order to form a boundary
7. something that provide protection or
defense
8. A fence or boundary form by a
defense row of shrubs or low trees
9. A means of protection or defense
Who put an edge in your home? It is the lord of host that builds
a hedge around His people. However, there are things we must do to experience
His hedge around us.
How You Can Build And Maintain A
Hedge Around Your Marriage And Home.
The
following are some ways a man can follow to build and maintain hedge around his
marriage and family.
1. Raising and maintaining prayer altar
in your home. Job. 1:5; Philip. 4:6-7.
You must develop a life of prayer together. The man must learn to pray with his
wife from time to time, have a regular family devotion. A family that prays
together does not only stay together, but also is protected by God together and
grow together. Instead of being anxious pray about it together. Pray about
everything and anything. This will also result to the peace of God in the
marriage and home that surpasses all human understanding
2. Everyone is saved in the home. Acts 16:30-32. Seek for the salvation
of your children and spouse if they are not saved. The jailer brought salvation
to his household. In a home where everyone is saved there is more assurance of
divine protection.
3. Keeping your home (self, Spouse,
children & everyone) sanctified, purified always. Jobs 1:5. As the man of
the home. Every father is by God’s design the priest, pastor, and prophet of
his home. So you must always stand before God in these spiritual positions to
make intercession, plead for mercy, and pray for the sanctification and
purification of your marriage, spouse, and children (Eph. 5:25-28). You can do this by loving her as Christ does the
church and by the word of God.
4. Create and maintain an atmosphere of
integrity, truthfulness, transparency and righteousness in the home (between
you and your spouse, between the two of you and the children) Job 1:1-3; (having the fear of God).
Lies should not be found in your month. Lies create a crack for the devil to
operate in a marriage or home. Do not build your marriage on lies, but on the
truth. That means you as the man must exemplify uprightness, integrity,
truthfulness, etc.
5. Build and maintain commitment in
service to God and His temple (Jos. 24:15). A home where everyone chooses to
serve God with all their hearts, God will always protect. You must be committed
to the service of God. Lead your family as Joshua did to serve God. You should
be at the forefront in going to church and be involved in church ministries.
A
true life story of a family where the father most time will not go to church
but only encourage the wife and children to go, and One day the son refuses to
go to church and when the mum got angry and try to force him, he said men don’t
go to church. This is because he has observed that his father does not go to
church. That kind of attitude break divine hedge over a man. If you are not
faithful to God’s business He will not be faithful to yours, even in protecting
you.
6. Make and maintain the word of God as
the Centre and foundation and pillar of your marriage and home. Mt. 7:24-27. The word of God is the
solid foundation for a protected marriage. Build your marriage on the word of
God. It is a sure cover and defense when the wind blows, the storms comes, the
rain falls, and the flood of life comes. The word of God must be the basis of
everything and decision in the marriage and home.
7. Build and maintain an attitude of
giving sacrificially to God (His house, His servant, orphans, fatherless and
widow). Acts 10:1-4. Your giving
will stand as a defense for you especially in times of need, even the need of
salvation and protection. (Prov. 19:17.)
Giving to the needy is giving to God. When you give to the work of the church
and mission, to the servant of God and to the needy you are building a hedge
around your life and marriage.
8. The man must lead in making sure
these three Ps are built and maintained in the marriage. A. Pray together. B.
Plan together. C. Play together as a couple.
9. You must keep to the marriage
covenant. (Mal.2:13-16) breaking
your wedding vows is breaking God’s hedge around your marriage and home. God
was a witness between you and the wife of your youth. If you must maintain
God’s hedge around your life, marriage and home you must keep all times your
marriage vows. I will encourage you to from time to time think about and renew
your marriage vows.
10.
You must diligently, devotedly, blamelessly,
uprightly, and with the fear of God (Job
1:2) develop and continue to do the fore things mentioned above so that you
will continue to enjoy divine protection and defense.
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