Except we are pretending, marriage relationships can
seem like a lot of work until you sit back to realize just how much you've been
given. A prosperous, healthy relationship requires some give and take, and is
absolutely within your reach if you and your spouse are willing to do a bit of
work. If you and your spouse are for each other, all the work will definitely
be worth it in the long run. So from this article you will get to know how to
have a happy healthy relationship you so much desire.
Practice
forgiveness. Forgiveness is a decision of letting go
of the past and focusing on the present. It's about taking control of your
current situation, as you must offer it to your partner as much as you demand
it from your spouse. Talk about the relationship problems and try to reach a
mutual agreement on how to handle the situation in the future and then commit yourself
to it. If you learn from the past and do not repeat the same pattern, it's a
good sign. It's the only way to prevent you from more disappointment, anger or
resentment.
Remember who forgiveness really benefits. Forgiving
your spouse absolves them from past mistakes, but it also frees you from
carrying around anger and resentment. Don't view it as an entirely altruistic
act—it's something you're doing for both of your betterment.
Spouse
should develop better communication with one another. There
is no one born of woman who was born as a great communicators — it's an art
everyone has to learn and work at. In relationship, the Way
and manner couples talk to each other might seem small, but you do it several
times a day and it does have an effect in your marital relationship. Consider
these fixes:
Stop using directive
language. Try to keep phrases like "you should" or "you
can't" out of your relationship. You and your partner are equals, and
neither one of you should have the authority to rule each other.
Relay your expectations. If you expect
your partner to do something, say it out. Don't expect that your spouse should
read your mind, and don't rely on hints either. Being clear about what you want
will gives your partner a fair shot at succeeding. (And keep the above point in
mind: instead of "You should take the garbage out every day," say
"I'd really like it if you took the garbage out every day.")
Always say
"please" and "thank you." You should be able to let loose
around your spouse, so there's no need to worry about having impeccable manners
all the time. The exception to this is asking nicely and expressing gratitude
whenever your spouse does something — don't just assume he or she knows how you
meant.
Fight fair.
Don't just let all these good communication skills go out the window during an
argument. Try to get your point across in a loving, respectful manner that
doesn't seek to hurt your spouse. If they insist on yelling or throwing
insults, suggest that you continue the conversation once both of you are more
level-headed.
Don’t
you ever hide anything from your spouse, most especially your
feelings about your partner and your relationship—whether good or bad! Acting in
this manner will help you to be able to overcome all relationship problems. If
something bad happened in your past that still affects you in the present, they
need to know about it. You should be able to discuss your sexual history. It is
an obligation before you decide to be sexually involved with your partner. But
you should make them feel safe and free from judgment, and you should expect
the same from your partner.
You should be
able to discuss even your sexual history. It is an obligation before you decide
to be sexually involved with your spouse. But you should make them feel safe
and free from judgment, and you should expect the same from your spouse too. Express your
feelings towards them. Always remind your partner of how much they mean to you,
and what they represent to you. Women should not be the only ones who need
expressions of love and care, men need to do that too.
Don’t
you ever hide anything from your spouse, most especially your
feelings about your partner and your relationship—whether good or bad! Acting in
this manner will help you to be able to overcome all relationship problems. If
something bad happened in your past that still affects you in the present, they
need to know about it. You should be able to discuss your sexual history. It is
an obligation before you decide to be sexually involved with your partner. But
you should make them feel safe and free from judgment, and you should expect
the same from your partner.
Learn
to support each other. To be supportive means you are making
your spouse's happiness and well-being a priority, in ways big and small. Keep
in mind that part of why you're in relationships in the first place is that
you're each other's biggest part and fans, so make sure you act like it. Try
demonstrating your support in these ways:
Learn to be a good listener to your spouse.
If your partner needs you to lend an ear, do it willingly. You don't always
need to come up with a solution, just support Offer encouragement. If your
partner is trying to make a positive change, start a new hobby, or undertake a
difficult challenge, be their biggest cheerleader. Provide a safe place. Allow your spouse to be
vulnerable in front of you without fear of judgment.
Spouse should take up a hobby together. It is revealed that learning something
new together can help you grow closer, as well as discovering a leisure
activity that both of can enjoy. You can take up sports like tennis or
basketball, learning a new language, cooking, crafting, or whatever else you've
wanted to try.
Find small ways to serve each other.
Doing small acts of service for your spouse shows that you're aware of what he
or she needs, and you're ready to help. It doesn't have to be an extravagant gesture:
make dinner, take care of a small errand, or offer a foot rubs at the end of
the day. Don't make it a big deal, and don't usually expect payback.
Spouse should learn to show their affection to
one another in whatever way they can. There's a difference
between knowing that you're loved and feeling that you're loved. Sometimes, we often
think that our partners should know that we love them even when we don't show
it. Please don't rely on this too much. The best relationships use affection to
show love.
Do something for your partner that you know they will
truly appreciate. Whether it means waking up early to mow the lawn, taking the
kids to karate, etc., it's often the little favors that say the most. Don't be afraid to show physical affection
every once in a while. Loving relationships feed off of the little kisses,
hugs, and back-rubs that are mainstays of affection.
Laugh
and Smile together. Laugh and smile at one another with the
security of love. Laughing and smiling helps the world go 'round and it helps
your body burn calories, increase blood flow, strengthen the immune system, and
lowers blood sugar levels Laughter as it is can be comforting, infectious, or
an aphrodisiac, and many things in between, so don't forget to laugh and smile
at one another always.
Make
and keep clear agreements. Respect the difference between
yourself and your spouse. Don't expect he or she agrees with you on everything.
Reach mutual agreement or plan, and then be committed to it. And if you say
you're going to meet your partner for lunch at noon, be on time, or call if
you're going to be late. Keeping
agreements shows respect for yourself and your partner, as well as creating a
sense of trust safety and healthy relationships.
Always
learn to admit your mistakes and say sorry. Right after a
misunderstanding or argument, tell your partner to give you some time to think
of the wrong and right things that you and he/she did. Tell your partner to do
the same thing and talk to them after 10-15 minutes. Tell your partner to give
you time to talk and explain to them why you were angry, the wrong things you
did, the things they did that you did not like and what you would like them to
change. Ask your partner to do the same thing and give them a fair chance to
talk and explain also. This will make your relationship stronger and help
strengthen the communication between you and your spouse
Always pend some quality time together-
No matter how busy you two are, there is always an excitement when you do
something together, when you share your precious time. Play a sport, eat at a
restaurant, and watch your favorite movies together. You will feel the magic of
love and connection that you have with each other
Always
Remember You Are Intimate-Sex is one important part of healthy relationships, but it’s only
one part, and it’s quite different from intimacy, which is less about physical
satisfaction than about bonding, friendship, and familiarity. If you’re in a
healthy relationship, you’ll feel connected—in and out of bed.
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